UPR
What Is Unconditional Positive Regard?
More Than Acceptance—It’s Deep Human Worth
Developed by Carl Rogers, UPR is the belief that every person has inherent value—regardless of their choices, identity, emotions, or past. In the therapy room, it means your counsellor doesn’t withhold warmth, attention, or respect based on your “performance.”
Not Approval—But Steady, Non-Judgmental Presence
UPR isn’t about agreeing with everything you say or do. It’s about separating your actions from your worth. A skilled therapist can challenge gently while still holding you in deep regard.
How UPR Shows Up in Sessions with Fiona
No Hidden Agendas
I won’t subtly steer you toward being “more confident,” “less anxious,” or “more like others.” Instead, I’ll help you understand your values, rhythms, and needs—on your terms.
Consistency Through Difficulty
Even when you express anger, shame, or confusion, UPR remains steady. This reliability helps rebuild trust—especially if past relationships felt conditional or unpredictable.
Experience Unconditional Regard with Fiona Jane Counselling
If you’ve ever felt you must “earn” kindness—or hide parts of yourself to be accepted—you deserve a different kind of relationship.
In-person counselling in Lincoln offers a space where:
- Your identity is never questioned
- Your emotions are valid—even the messy ones
- Your worth is assumed, not assessed
This is where healing begins—not through fixing, but through being fully seen.
❗ Important: Unconditional positive regard does not mean permissiveness or lack of boundaries.
A professional counsellor in Lincoln maintains ethical limits—around time, safety, and mutual respect—while still offering deep acceptance. UPR is about who you are, not what you do in session. Healthy boundaries and unconditional regard go hand in hand.
My Approach
Ethical, Accredited, and Client-Focused
I am a BACP and ISPC registered counsellor, ensuring professional standards and confidentiality. I work collaboratively with clients across Lincolnshire to build resilience, clarity, and emotional wellbeing—without judgment.
Important! In Crisis?
- Call Samaritans free, 24/7, on 116 123
- Text SHOUT to 85258 for immediate crisis support
- Visit samaritans.org for confidential listening
About Fiona Jane
Fiona offers integrative counselling and coaching for relationships, anxiety, depression and wellbeing—online and across Lincolnshire.
Empathy
Empathy – deeply understanding another’s feelings & perspective—validation and compassionate presence without judgment. With attunement, kindness, patience, and presence.
UPR
Unconditional positive regard means accepting and valuing a person wholly—without judgment, conditions, or expectation of change. With warmth, respect, consistency, and care.
Congruence
Congruence is the therapist’s genuine, authentic presence—being real, transparent, and aligned in words, feelings, and actions. With integrity, honesty, openness, and self-awareness.
Empathy FAQ's
Get the answers you need...
1. What is unconditional positive regard in counselling?
1. What is unconditional positive regard in counselling?
It means your therapist accepts and values you—fully—as you are, without judgment, conditions, or the need for you to “improve” to be worthy of care.
2. Does unconditional positive regard mean my therapist agrees with everything I do?
2. Does unconditional positive regard mean my therapist agrees with everything I do?
No. UPR isn’t about approval—it’s about respect. Your counsellor in Lincoln can hold firm boundaries while still seeing your inherent worth and humanity.
3. Why is this important for LGBTQIA+ or neurodivergent clients?
3. Why is this important for LGBTQIA+ or neurodivergent clients?
Many have faced rejection for who they are. UPR offers a rare space where your identity, neurotype, or choices aren’t problems to fix—but parts of you to honour.
4. Can a therapist really accept someone unconditionally?
4. Can a therapist really accept someone unconditionally?
A skilled, ethically grounded counsellor strives for UPR as a core value—not perfection, but a consistent commitment to see you without shame or agenda.
5. How will I feel if my therapist offers unconditional positive regard?
5. How will I feel if my therapist offers unconditional positive regard?
You’ll likely feel safer, more open, and less afraid of being “too much.” Over time, this can help you develop greater self-acceptance—starting in the therapy room.
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